Self-esteem is the confidence you have in yourself, in your abilities and in your self-worth. Everyone’s self-esteem fluctuates, it’s part of being human.
Tip one: Stop using negative self-talk. Negative self-talk
is when you say or think bad things about yourself. You are not stupid, you are
not ugly, you are not worthless. I know online it’s normal for people to call
themselves “human trash” but that isn’t cool or quirky it’s honestly damaging
to your self-esteem.
Tip two: Put less thought into what other people think of
you. I’m aware that it’s difficult to stop caring about what other people think
of you but think of it this way: more likely than not other people aren’t
analyzing you as much as you’re analyzing yourself. I’ll have mini panic
attacks over something awkward I said ten years ago and I bet the people that
heard me say that don’t even remember that happening. Do you remember something
awkward someone else did ten years ago? Most likely not, stop being so hard on
yourself.
Tip three: Let the past go. Working off of my point in tip
two people probably don’t remember that awkward thing you did. Also, you aren’t
that person anymore, the past is in the past and try as we might we can’t
change it now. Dwelling on past mistakes will only damage your current self,
use past mistakes as learning opportunities and grow from them.
Tip four: Be prepared. If an upcoming event like an
interview is making you feel anxious do some research on the company, you can
also research mock job interview questions to have a thought-out response instead
of just coming up with something on the fly. Another example of being prepared is
if you’re going somewhere new look into the area to relieve your anxiety, you
can map out where to park and how long it will take you to get there, things of
that nature.
Tip five: Look good, feel good. It’s true when you think you
look good you feel better about yourself. Spend a few extra minutes getting
ready in the morning, wear your favorite outfit.
Tip six: Set boundaries and stick to them. You know what you
are comfortable doing and what you’re not. This doesn’t mean never step out of
your comfort zone but if your gut is telling you to not do something you should
probably listen to it. This could also apply to when you say “no” to someone
sticking to that answer, you don’t have to make yourself feel bad for saying
no.
Tip seven: Remove toxic people from your life. Sadly, not
all people have good intensions, some people just use people. If you have
someone in your life that upsets you regularly, isn’t a good friend, belittles
you, things of that nature remove that person from your life. Their energy is
only dragging you down.
Tip eight: It’s okay to fail at something. Allow yourself to
be a beginner when trying something new. Failure is a part of life, use it as a
learning opportunity and try again.
Tip nine: Forgive yourself. Mistakes happen, it is okay.
Tip ten: Think of the things you are good at. Everyone is good at something, even if it is something small be proud of the things you can do well. For example, I can make a great quesadilla, will that change the world? No but it does make me feel good about my cooking abilities.
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