7 signs someone is lying to you

I picked to put this subject in my mental health vlog because when someone it doesn’t feel good to be lied to, it can be stressful thinking about why someone is lying and if you care about that person their lies will have negative consequences on your own mental health. 

1.      Vague stories- when someone is lying, they are less likely to give details about a story they might just say “I was at Sarah’s house last night” and that is the end of the story. No details, and they aren’t conversational about the topic like if you usually ask someone “Where did you go last night?” someone who is telling the truth will be more likely to respond with more details like “I went over to Sarah’s last night, Ben was in town and we ordered a bunch of Chinese food for dinner and after I was so full, I feel asleep on her sofa.”

2.       Inconsistency- this is a huge red flag for example if someone tells you about this crazy party they went to with their friend and then later on the conversation resurfaces and certain elements of the story has changed that person is lying.

3.       Exaggerated expressions- when someone is lying, they will exaggerate their facial expressions to seem like they feel upset or angry or whatever emotion they need to betray so people think they feel strongly and won’t question the lie. The facial expressions also might seem like they are lasting longer than they typically would.

4.       Not maintaining eye contact- this one can be tricky because we don’t stare deeply into everyone’s eyes while we talk but if the eye contact feels like it’s drifting often even when you’re looking into their eyes or the person isn’t even looking at you while they tell you a story most likely they are lying.

5.       A lot of blinking- research has shown that a lot of blinking is tied to trying to hide emotions and stress. That research can be found here

6.       What they are saying doesn’t match up with what they are showing. If someone is telling you a sad story and only their face looks sad but their body language, isn’t they might be lying. This could also work in the opposite like if someone is slumped over but smiling when they talk. Body language is very critical part of communication.

7.       Nervous- do they look and or act nervous when telling you something they shouldn’t have a reason to be nervous over? They are probably nervous because of the lie.